The process of getting back together with your ex can often be emotional and filled with anguish. Sometimes no matter how hard you try or what you do, things become worse. While you might hope and pray that your ex comes back to you quickly, days turn into weeks and weeks turn into months as you turn your life upside down to convince your ex to fall in love with you again. Your friends and family encourage you to forget about your ex and move on with your life.
Right now you might have a lot of time on your hands. You have a choice. You can sit and drive yourself insane worrying about your relationship with your ex or you can make the most of this time. You would be very normal to spend days, weeks or months feeling sorry for yourself and acting depressed. If you want to do that then that is your choice. You must admit that using this time when you're alone and you have the opportunity to do whatever you want is very attractive. Using this time to bring about change in your life and making your life more attractive to your ex when the time comes to talk again is probably a good idea. You will be keeping your mind off of your ex while making changes that will make you more attractive.
One thing you can do, if you ever thought of it before, is to start your own little business. Imagine being able to tell your ex that you started that business that you always dreamed about the next time you talk with them. The added income and freedom that owning your own business can provide will be very attractive and if money was an issue in the past, this will help to solve that problem also. Now is the time to start making plans and thinking about what you would do if nothing was impossible.
In addition to doing something that you have always dreamed of, the time and focus that is going to be required in starting your own business will take your mind off of your ex. Focusing on the problem of what to do to get your ex back very well might be paralyzing your life. Taking your mind off of your ex and throwing yourself into something big like starting your own small business has a two-fold effect in improving your life and your future with your ex. Often when we stop focusing on someone or a troubled relationship, our partner begins to miss us and the attention that we once heaped upon them so, as you can see, focusing on your work in your new business might be a very good move.
Did you used to dream about traveling and seeing other countries? Was it a goal of yours to take an actual vacation and get away for a week or so? Think of the possibilities and write down the first thing that comes into your mind that excites you. How would it be to see Europe or the Alps? What would the sand in Mexico feel like between your toes? What would you eat on that cruise ship that you always dreamed of sailing on? Planning a trip and coming up with a budget to get you there can take your mind off of your ex and bring you added benefits that you probably hadn't thought of.
Be sure to fill your camera or phone with pictures of your trip beginning from the moment you leave your door and all throughout your vacation. Post these pictures on a few social networking sites and you can be sure that your ex will find out about it. The normal reaction that your ex will have is one of extreme jealousy and a little bit of pain as they peruse the photos of your dream vacation. If you are scared that your ex will become offended or upset that you are happy and living a good life without them then so be it. This trip might be the reminder that they need. Your ex will realize that you're a fun person to be with and you have a good life with a lot to offer. If your ex says a word about the fact that you seem to be handling the breakup rather well, you can remind them that it was their choice to end the relationship. You shouldn't be expected to sit at home alone waiting for them to call you. This vacation was a part of the healing process and a necessary step in your recovery from a very emotional breakup.
Improving yourself and regaining your self-esteem and confidence needs to be a primary goal from here on out. Doing something constructive to help you to feel better and improve your mood is a part of life that very well might be absent these days. Joining a gym, taking up yoga or meditation are great ways to improve your body and your mind after a breakup. Taking a few courses at your local collage or a new hobby like fencing or rock climbing. Do something that is going to make you happy and expand your mind as well as make you feel good about yourself.
The common advice that you may have been given that says that you should distract yourself and forget about getting your ex back might hold some truth. Of course, you would be forgetting about getting back together with your ex only temporarily and your goal would be to focus on things that will actually help you to win your ex back. A watched pot never boils and sitting there looking at the phone waiting for your ex to call you may drive you insane. Instead, focus on rebuilding your life and doing some of the things that you always dreamed of and your phone will be ringing before you know it. You very well might find that you are still in the midst of some of these life changing projects when your time alone is over and your ex comes back to you.
Right now you might have a lot of time on your hands. You have a choice. You can sit and drive yourself insane worrying about your relationship with your ex or you can make the most of this time. You would be very normal to spend days, weeks or months feeling sorry for yourself and acting depressed. If you want to do that then that is your choice. You must admit that using this time when you're alone and you have the opportunity to do whatever you want is very attractive. Using this time to bring about change in your life and making your life more attractive to your ex when the time comes to talk again is probably a good idea. You will be keeping your mind off of your ex while making changes that will make you more attractive.
One thing you can do, if you ever thought of it before, is to start your own little business. Imagine being able to tell your ex that you started that business that you always dreamed about the next time you talk with them. The added income and freedom that owning your own business can provide will be very attractive and if money was an issue in the past, this will help to solve that problem also. Now is the time to start making plans and thinking about what you would do if nothing was impossible.
In addition to doing something that you have always dreamed of, the time and focus that is going to be required in starting your own business will take your mind off of your ex. Focusing on the problem of what to do to get your ex back very well might be paralyzing your life. Taking your mind off of your ex and throwing yourself into something big like starting your own small business has a two-fold effect in improving your life and your future with your ex. Often when we stop focusing on someone or a troubled relationship, our partner begins to miss us and the attention that we once heaped upon them so, as you can see, focusing on your work in your new business might be a very good move.
Did you used to dream about traveling and seeing other countries? Was it a goal of yours to take an actual vacation and get away for a week or so? Think of the possibilities and write down the first thing that comes into your mind that excites you. How would it be to see Europe or the Alps? What would the sand in Mexico feel like between your toes? What would you eat on that cruise ship that you always dreamed of sailing on? Planning a trip and coming up with a budget to get you there can take your mind off of your ex and bring you added benefits that you probably hadn't thought of.
Be sure to fill your camera or phone with pictures of your trip beginning from the moment you leave your door and all throughout your vacation. Post these pictures on a few social networking sites and you can be sure that your ex will find out about it. The normal reaction that your ex will have is one of extreme jealousy and a little bit of pain as they peruse the photos of your dream vacation. If you are scared that your ex will become offended or upset that you are happy and living a good life without them then so be it. This trip might be the reminder that they need. Your ex will realize that you're a fun person to be with and you have a good life with a lot to offer. If your ex says a word about the fact that you seem to be handling the breakup rather well, you can remind them that it was their choice to end the relationship. You shouldn't be expected to sit at home alone waiting for them to call you. This vacation was a part of the healing process and a necessary step in your recovery from a very emotional breakup.
Improving yourself and regaining your self-esteem and confidence needs to be a primary goal from here on out. Doing something constructive to help you to feel better and improve your mood is a part of life that very well might be absent these days. Joining a gym, taking up yoga or meditation are great ways to improve your body and your mind after a breakup. Taking a few courses at your local collage or a new hobby like fencing or rock climbing. Do something that is going to make you happy and expand your mind as well as make you feel good about yourself.
The common advice that you may have been given that says that you should distract yourself and forget about getting your ex back might hold some truth. Of course, you would be forgetting about getting back together with your ex only temporarily and your goal would be to focus on things that will actually help you to win your ex back. A watched pot never boils and sitting there looking at the phone waiting for your ex to call you may drive you insane. Instead, focus on rebuilding your life and doing some of the things that you always dreamed of and your phone will be ringing before you know it. You very well might find that you are still in the midst of some of these life changing projects when your time alone is over and your ex comes back to you.
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