Do you think you know what women look for in a man? Has your experience or research shown you what you think most women look for in a guy but still you're single or not able to date the kind of women you desire? What a woman really wants or looks for in a guy is a bit elusive. Most women will also tell you one thing and exhibit preferences in real life. This makes things even more confusing for most men. Let's take a look at what most guys think that women look for in a guy and what the truth is.
You will often hear that women are attracted to guys with money. They like nice cars, a guy's ability to buy them things and take them places. You have perhaps even heard the saying that first you have to get the money and then you can get the girl. This mindset often holds many guys back from approaching beautiful women because they assume that they don't have the kind of money necessary to date a high quality woman. They fear that they will be rejected because they're not rich and they can't buy them the things that a pretty woman will want. They give up before they have even begun.
The truth is that there are women that chase guys with money. These women are gold diggers. This shouldn't come as a great surprise. Of course, this doesn't mean that all women are gold diggers. Most women will tell you that a guy who is wealthy is actually a turn off if he feels that he can buy her affection. The majority of women will reject a guy that comes on too strong or who is accustomed to dating gold diggers. So, money isn't necessary to date a beautiful woman and if you are wealthy, let that be a little secret that you reveal once you know that she's into you.
Then there are others that say that women are attracted to men who are handsome or muscular. The media provides proof of this by showing models and celebrities with other models or celebrities. You'll also often see girls that work out a lot with guys that work out a lot. It might seem that pretty people tend to be attracted to other pretty people and if you're ordinary looking you might feel like you don't have a chance with an attractive woman.
The fact is that movie stars, models and girls that work out at the gym simply tend to be around other movie stars, models and people at the gym. This doesn't mean that how you look is particularly important to attractive women. Sure, taking care of yourself and making sure that you don't smell bad is important to everyone but being overly attractive or even handsome isn't a prerequisite for dating a particularly attractive woman. There are plenty of cases where movie stars and models fall in love with very ordinary guys but this doesn't sell newspapers. Having a pretty face might get you a second look from an attractive girl but just think about this for a moment. Are there some attractive guys that aren't very clever or who are shallow or obnoxious? Don't you think that many women have figured this out? That's right, sometimes being handsome can actually work against you when you're trying to date a girl that's very pretty.
This is where things get very confusing. If you ask most women what they look for in a guy they will tell you that he must be nice. Most women will remark that they can't find a nice guy or they'll complain that all the nice guys are taken. As a result, you might think that all you have to do is be nice to her or show her now nice you are and she will fall in love with you. Save a few kittens out of a tree or buy her some flowers and she will realize that you're a nice guy and you will be giving her what she says she wants in a guy.
Sadly, most really nice guys wind up falling in the friend zone when they try being nice to a beautiful woman. A nice guy is so rare that they value him and being nice to her before it is earned or warranted doesn't stir passion in a woman's heart. This doesn't mean that you should try being a bad boy, which is another myth about what women want. Understand that there is a time for being nice and that is after there is rapport and attraction. You can still be nice without following her around like a puppy dog but that comes soon after she starts to show an interest in you. Only needy men go out of their way to be nice to a girl. It's similar to trying to buy her affections and it is repulsive to many women.
The truth about what women really do desire in a man might be a little shocking to you but here's the truth. Women look for a man that is genuine and true. They want a man that is dependable, strong and who instills a feeling of being protected when they are with him. They feel as if they are able to talk about anything with him including their fears and dreams. A woman wants a man that is emotionally strong and wise. They want a man that is secure enough in himself to be genuine when he's around her. It takes a real man to be himself and not play games when he has found the woman of his dreams. If you can pull that off without flinching then you have a chance at dating some of the most beautiful women in the world.
You will often hear that women are attracted to guys with money. They like nice cars, a guy's ability to buy them things and take them places. You have perhaps even heard the saying that first you have to get the money and then you can get the girl. This mindset often holds many guys back from approaching beautiful women because they assume that they don't have the kind of money necessary to date a high quality woman. They fear that they will be rejected because they're not rich and they can't buy them the things that a pretty woman will want. They give up before they have even begun.
The truth is that there are women that chase guys with money. These women are gold diggers. This shouldn't come as a great surprise. Of course, this doesn't mean that all women are gold diggers. Most women will tell you that a guy who is wealthy is actually a turn off if he feels that he can buy her affection. The majority of women will reject a guy that comes on too strong or who is accustomed to dating gold diggers. So, money isn't necessary to date a beautiful woman and if you are wealthy, let that be a little secret that you reveal once you know that she's into you.
Then there are others that say that women are attracted to men who are handsome or muscular. The media provides proof of this by showing models and celebrities with other models or celebrities. You'll also often see girls that work out a lot with guys that work out a lot. It might seem that pretty people tend to be attracted to other pretty people and if you're ordinary looking you might feel like you don't have a chance with an attractive woman.
The fact is that movie stars, models and girls that work out at the gym simply tend to be around other movie stars, models and people at the gym. This doesn't mean that how you look is particularly important to attractive women. Sure, taking care of yourself and making sure that you don't smell bad is important to everyone but being overly attractive or even handsome isn't a prerequisite for dating a particularly attractive woman. There are plenty of cases where movie stars and models fall in love with very ordinary guys but this doesn't sell newspapers. Having a pretty face might get you a second look from an attractive girl but just think about this for a moment. Are there some attractive guys that aren't very clever or who are shallow or obnoxious? Don't you think that many women have figured this out? That's right, sometimes being handsome can actually work against you when you're trying to date a girl that's very pretty.
This is where things get very confusing. If you ask most women what they look for in a guy they will tell you that he must be nice. Most women will remark that they can't find a nice guy or they'll complain that all the nice guys are taken. As a result, you might think that all you have to do is be nice to her or show her now nice you are and she will fall in love with you. Save a few kittens out of a tree or buy her some flowers and she will realize that you're a nice guy and you will be giving her what she says she wants in a guy.
Sadly, most really nice guys wind up falling in the friend zone when they try being nice to a beautiful woman. A nice guy is so rare that they value him and being nice to her before it is earned or warranted doesn't stir passion in a woman's heart. This doesn't mean that you should try being a bad boy, which is another myth about what women want. Understand that there is a time for being nice and that is after there is rapport and attraction. You can still be nice without following her around like a puppy dog but that comes soon after she starts to show an interest in you. Only needy men go out of their way to be nice to a girl. It's similar to trying to buy her affections and it is repulsive to many women.
The truth about what women really do desire in a man might be a little shocking to you but here's the truth. Women look for a man that is genuine and true. They want a man that is dependable, strong and who instills a feeling of being protected when they are with him. They feel as if they are able to talk about anything with him including their fears and dreams. A woman wants a man that is emotionally strong and wise. They want a man that is secure enough in himself to be genuine when he's around her. It takes a real man to be himself and not play games when he has found the woman of his dreams. If you can pull that off without flinching then you have a chance at dating some of the most beautiful women in the world.
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